Last week on a very hot day we took a ride out to Fresh & Fancy Farms in New Milford, NJ to meet with Meg, our florist slash wedding designer, and Lisa and Stephanie from Cedar Lakes Estate. With our wedding only a few months way, it’s time to talk details!
The lovely Meg and a pail of baby’s breath
The farm itself was adorable. Full of blooming flowers, gorgeous succulents and Meg’s collection of vases, candlesticks, and other wedding tchotchkes, we enjoyed wandering around the place.
pretty pretty pretty!
So what are we doing three months out, besides getting stressed? We are starting to finalize our timeline, nailing down our flower and design choices and going over the menus again and again just to make ourselves hungry. Now it’s time to work on the place cards, wedding programs, and other paper goods. Meg showed us a few special items for our wedding and we left there feeling not only excited, but we were reminded that we are in very good hands!
There are some women who might look stunning in this gown, many women actually, but I am not one of them. What I loved about this gown was its old Hollywood glamour. I imagined this on a tall waif of a gal with a blonde bob. This dress hugged me in all the wrong places and my mother demanded I remove it.
I did. But not before striking this ridiculous pose.
Sadly this was never a contender, but it is still a lovely and elegant dress with an art deco flair, a gem for the right lady. This was also definitely too small for me, and pretty beat up. I know I’m lucky that I can be squeezed into a lot of these samples, but I had to ask: What happens when bigger women come in to try on dresses, as a lot of sample gowns just fit me. Ever the Bridal Consultant, she found a delicate way to tell me that they rip apart a lot of these dresses shoving women into them. Or they don’t get all the way into them. Finding a dress that I couldn’t even squeeze into certainly wouldn’t make me feel like a beautiful bride or make me want to spend thousands of dollars. Oh well.
My Favorite. People were staring as we crossed the street because our dogs Luda and Winston are adorable, we looked ridiculous, and we had photographers following us.
Remember how I told you that Grazia, a British women’s magazine, wanted to do an interview with us, as well as a photo shoot? Well that happened, and we did it, cause why not?! I asked to proof read the final draft, which they agreed to, and when I did I mentioned a few mistakes (Sam is originally from New Jersey, for instance, not the Midwest. I realize the difference means nothing to the Brits, but it does to Americans) I was assured these tweaks would be made. They weren’t. Is it the end of the world? Absolutely not, especially since this is a British magazine and I don’t know anyone who will ever read it. When I read it, the article actually sounds like a British girl telling a similar story to my own, rather than me telling my story, or us telling our story… Oh well. (I apparently had a boyfriend when I met Sam, and when we weren’t together I slept with other women – both false)
The good news; the amazing photographer Circe sent us some of the best images from the shoot. They’re pretty wild, but definitely entertaining. We’re wearing ridiculous outfits, the oddest mixes of our own clothes. It was really fun though, So I thought I’d share a few.
We didn’t know how to pose so we spent most of the day laughing nervously.
It can’t all be glamorous right? So this post is just a check-in of where we’re at about 6 months from the wedding.
This week we:
Went over our wedding contract with our amazing wedding coordinator and culinary mastermind, Stephanie and Lisa at Cedar Lakes.
Sent our selected ceremony readings to our Celebrant Elizabeth. (Sam also sent out her questionnaire, on time. I got an extension. Bad student!)
Sent our invitation suite wording to Breck at Sesame Letter Press, who in turn sent us a .pdf of our suite. We will be finalizing with him this week.
Planned a Monday morning phone call with Cheryl, our planner.
Booked a hair and make up trial for next weekend (So excited. So nervous)
Got on top of bach planning (Post on those to come. Let me just say they’re both going to be totally out of control)
Made appointments to finish gift registries
Sent out accommodation info to family
Checked in with John Ragusa, who found us one of our wedding’s most important elements; the band!
Discussed the fact that we need to purchase and finalize wedding favors (Does that count as something we got done? I just like crossing things off lists … )
According to our Wedding Workbook (printed and included in the Wedding Binder courtesy of Sam) we are pretty on top of everything. I think the next 2-3 months are going to be really busy for us with wedding stuff, but amazing busy like tasting cake and choosing my wedding band. Sam chose her wedding band in December. She saw a photo on the web, we drove to Philly and she put down a deposit that day. I’m not quite so easy and I don’t know what I want! We do need to finish reserving important rentals like golf carts, and I’m not going to worry about the bullet that reads: Buy stockings and any special lingerie your dress requires (My goal for my wedding was NO SPANX! I love dressing up and I definitely have an assortment of uncomfortable under garments, but for my wedding I’m going as glam as I can as comfortably as I can)
So we’re on track! All is well. Oh, Sam also bought amazing wedding shoes. I’ll post a picture of those soon, if I can get her permission. We also went to see our band last week when they played a show at Prohibition. They are not only super gracious and very cool, but they seriously rock. I cannot even wait to go nuts to some Honky Tonk Woman!!
We are getting down to the wire with some of our ceremony decisions.
For starters, I don’t plan to have my vows written until ohh, September 6th. We have narrowed down most of the other elements of the ceremony, like the readings (Yes, of course I want an Irish blessing) and rituals. (Yes, of course Samantha will be stomping on a glass.)
We may even use some lyrics to one of our all-time favorite songs as a wedding reading. No, you’ll never guess the song …
Now we just need to finalize our plans for walking down the aisle …
on Sunday we went to Bloomingdale’s with Sam’s Aunt Faith, who offered to help us on our first venture into registration territory. Three hours later, I was ready to go straight to bed. Boy, was it overwhelming. How on earth are you supposed to A) Assume you know what you’re going to need in your future home and B) make a wish list of things you expect other people to buy for you?!?!
I think we did okay for our first try, and it was kind of fun to find something pretty and ZAP! it was on my wish list. Too bad I couldn’t have done this as a child with my Christmas lists. Sam is desperate for a waffle maker, so I held in my veto and if someone feels the need to make the purchase, then so be it.
I learned that we cannot do it all at once. I have about two hours in me at a time. We also get great perks at Bloomingdale’s, like 20% off of dresses! I’ve already got my eye on one for the shower … I never thought I would spend so much time learning about knives. I never knew how badly I wanted a zester or a food processor. I never realized how many options you have when choosing towels.
Our next stop will be Crate & Barrel, and I’m excited to tackle this again!
Part of the fun of planning our wedding is that everyone we’re working with has been incredible. Yesterday we met up with Lisa and Stephanie Karvellas of Cedar Lakes Estate, along with Meg Low, our designer, from That Time Events. We had a long, delicious lunch at El Toro Blanco in the West Village, where we discussed everything from our crazy wedding menu to boutonnière ideas to lighting design. When we mentioned our plans for our honeymoon, we finished off lunch with stories of our craziest travel nightmares.
Clockwise from left: Stephanie, Meg, Sam, Laura, Lisa
Every time we see them we get even more excited for our big crazy wedding weekend. Just over seven months away now … Agh!
Some couples take engagement photos. We are no such couple. There was simply no possible way for us to take engagement photos without looking completely ridiculous.
So when Grazia got in touch with us to do a photo shoot (Yes, we’re just going to ride this totally weird wave) we thought, “Why not!?”
Turns out we really needed the practice. Our wedding photos should certainly be interesting because we had no idea what we were doing. Where to look? Smile? Walk? Stand still?
We haven’t seen the final product, but if nothing else I bet they’ll be funny. We got to work with amazing women who were really fun to spend an afternoon with, and they made us feel as comfortable as we possibly could in such an odd situation.
The design team in Brooklyn is working on our wedding invitations and we are so looking forward to seeing the final design.
I don’t want to give away too much, but they’re a really lovely union of rustic and elegant, just like our wedding venue, and maybe me. Well, I can be a little rustic, less so on the elegant. Sam is certainly not rustic …