It’s positively unreal to me that Sam and I have been married for six months. It’s been a whirlwind, but to be honest, we like life that way.
Some people warned us that after our wedding everything would change.
Some wondered if anything would change at all.
Some told us we’d feel empty without all the excitement and attention that a wedding demands.
So what has it really been like? Well, Sam and I moved in together back in 2007. We’ve had high-highs and low-lows in the years between then and now. In the early days there were wild fights, lies and half-truths. There were cross-country moves and there was a “break.” There were new jobs and higher education. There was rejection. There was sudden death and sudden accidents and surgeries and new friends and old friends and gain and loss and the constant, through all of this, has been a love so deep that its foundation is unbreakable.
Marriage, for these past six months, has been for Sam and I an extension of what we have been building on for nearly a decade now. It’s been almost ten years since I met Sam. It’s been almost eight years since we decided to really truly try out “this relationship thing.” It feels like a lifetime that I’ve loved her. We drive each other crazy. Sometimes it feels like we have nothing in common. Sometimes everything one of us says annoys the other into a near-blind rage. Sometimes I awake in the night and I just want to wrap myself around her because I am so full of love that I get choked up. Sometimes I awake in the night and the television is still on and I want to kick her.
Siem Reap, Cambodia
Six months into our marriage Sam and I are a couple in transition. We are each other’s greatest champions and harshest critics. We are working towards a future that belongs both to us and to a family that extends through our relatives and reaches our dearest friends.
Six months into our marriage and we have been very, very busy. We’ve celebrated holidays and gone on a long, incredible honeymoon. We’ve embarked on new adventures both together and separately. I’m in the middle of the arduous process of taking this little blog and allowing it to become something bigger and more meaningful. Please, hang in there and don’t desert me now. 2Brides2Be hasn’t even begun to show you what it’s capable of, and as I try to make my dream a reality I will certainly need the support of those who also want 2Brides2Be to be a place for anyone to come and take a peek into what it means to plan a lesbian wedding, to gain knowledge and to better understand all of the different ways in which we can celebrate love.
Fun with elephants in Chiang Rai, Thailand
As I wish a happy 6 month anniversary to my cute little wife I urge you to check back soon, and to contact me – any time – with questions or ideas or epiphanies. The overhauled and redefined 2Brides2Be is on its way …